Some women are naturally beautiful as well as attract men wherever they go- more often than not- the wrong kind of men. Others try too hard to be sexy; the result- a reputation for being open to casual sex. We take a look at some of the ways to avoid being thought of as merely a sex object and spot the signs when a man is only interested on one thing from you.
Don’t use sex to get a man’s attention- This means that you will be defined by sex and expected to want it as much as the guy does. If you talk about sex for the majority of your conversation, use all the innuendos under the sun and drink out of your straw like it’s a penis you are trying to excite, then men will get the wrong impression of you. Talking about sex is not the key to entering into a successful relationship- having a connection is.
Don’t dress down- Less is not more when it comes to your clothes. Women are sexy when they a little more covered up on a date or a night out. If you wear low cut tops and short skirts, there is little left the imagination. If you cover your shoulders he will think about pulling the material down to kiss them. If you wear a longer dress, he will fantasize about running his hand up your leg; if your top is a little higher he will wonder about your sexy underwear underneath- it’s all about mystery.
Avoid sex to keep his attention- Talk about anything and everything but sex on dates or on your first few meetings- if he is worth his salt he will be interested in you for your conversation and details about you. It also gives him a chance to make eye contact with you- if he doesn’t then he is somewhere else completely- probably thinking about your mate.
Take things slow- If you meet in a bar, exchange numbers rather than jumping into bed that night. Try the ‘three date rule’ or even more of you like and get to know each other before taking the leap into the bedroom. Make him work for you and perhaps just kiss on the first few dates.
Mix up your dates- Don’t opt for the dinner date on all of your early meets as this could lead to being a late dinner and sex routine. Try to do other couply things like a matinee at the cinema, a walk in the park or a morning coffee. That way one won’t lead onto the other. If he doesn’t want to meet up with you- chances are he doesn’t want to be seen out in public with you.
Talk to him- Every time you meet or perhaps at times when you are apart, try to have a healthy conversation- not just one that is full of suggestion. The more you get to know about each other the faster you can find out of its worth pursuing and if he can hold down the chatter.
Avoid each other’s houses for the first few dates- If you go back to one of your places- you could encourage him and end up having sex, which might not lead to another date- just the walk of shame.
How to spot a player:
Note if he remembers and uses your name- If he calls you ‘babe’ or ‘honey’ it’s because he can’t remember your name or is not committed to recalling it because he doesn’t see you in his life after a tonight. If you swap numbers, get him to type it into his phone not you- it’s the ultimate test if he’s been listening to you.
If he showers you with compliments- Every women enjoys being admired- but if he keeps saying that you have ‘beautiful eyes’ or a ‘gorgeous smile’, then he is buttering you up for coitus with the world’s most overused chat up lines.
If he talks about his past relationships- If he tries to get the sympathy vote from you after a bad relationship then chances are he is spinning you a story so you feel a greater connection with him.
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